Okay. Hypothetical-well, not so hypothetical-question here.
I got my hair cut recently-quite short. Ever since then, my mother's boyfriend has been referring to it as 'spikey dykey' in a disparaging way.
Now, okay, my hair does seem to grow in natural vertical tufts when it's that short, for some reason(it never used to). And I am not really thrilled with the look either-it wasn't what I was hoping for.
But I'm pretty sure it's NOT overly PC to get annoyed at someone equating being a lesbian with being unattractive!
Especially since I sort-of came out to my mother and her boyfriend some time ago.(I told them I liked girls. They don't believe me. Apparently I am too young and naive to know. HAH.)So-in effect, he was telling someone that as far as he knew identified as a lesbian, that she looked like a lesbian, and that this was ugly.
So...finally protested about this, in a phone conversation the other day. My mother's boyfriend laughed and said it was a joke and that my hair was 'spikey dykey'.
When I pressed my point, he got shirty and said I was overinterpreting and being too PC. And when I pointed out that not all lesbians have spiky hair he denied this and claimed that he knew more lesbians than me, and knew more about lesbians than me, and all the lesbians he knew had spiky hair, and that I was ignorant and talking about things I didn't understand.
...I mean. Really. FEMMES EXIST DAMMIT! > <
I'm pretty sure it's not me with the problem, here.
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Oh for fuck's sake.
ReplyDeleteI know a couple of different women who've been pushed out of the lesbian scene due to wearing their hair long while not being particularly femme, but a scene is not an orientation. Methinks he's mixing the two up. Culture, how someone dresses, how they look - different thing from who someone fancies, etc.